Overcoming Fear – Strategy lets you reprogram your mind with the appropriate level of caution and confidence. So you can keep the rational reasonable protective elements of fear, but no longer suffer the limitations of counter-productive unnecessary excess fear.
Now I’m a going to ask you a question, that is the key to success.
Are you willing to let go of the excessive parts of this fear now?
Notice, the question is not “give up all the fear”. That goal is too big. A goal should be no less than we need to get the result, and no more. That goal also sounds too black and white. We are not, don't need to, ask for a radical change.
We are not flicking a switch to go from fear to no fear. We are turning down a dial to have less fear, just enough to be free of excess fear. You don’t have to give up the fear altogether. But you do have to be willing to make a change and be free of excess fear.
Do you really want to let go of the excessive parts of this fear now? It may seem an obvious question, but a half-hearted or incomplete response creates half-hearted or incomplete results. The purpose of this recording is to make sure you have thought it through, and come to a complete decision to be free of excess unhelpful fear.
Limiting Beliefs and Subconscious Tendencies
Why would people be half hearted in deciding to be free of excess fear? There are a number of limiting beliefs and tendencies that are already often already programmed into the subconscious.
“Better safe than sorry."
“People work harder to avoid one unit of pain than to gain one unit of pleasure.”
“People tend to prefer the known to the unknown.”
Our fear is a known, and we tend to stick with something we know, even if it limits us, instead of change to something we don’t know, even if it frees us.
All these subconscious tendencies are running the show, which is why you are here, because it takes a subconscious intervention to make a change and run things according to your new conscious decision.
What Are Your Compelling Reasons?
You’ve probably had this fear for a long time, so what compelling reasons can you give your subconscious to break this old pattern? I want you to ask yourself deep inside to find powerful reasons why you are ready to overcome the fear that you had. If your answer is,
“I should let go of the fear” or
“It would be nice to let go of the fear” or
“They want me to let go of the fear”
think again, make it more powerful.
So let me ask you…
What Three Limitations You Will Be Free From?
What are the top two or three limitations that you will no longer have to suffer when you decide to be free of excessive fear?
Have you avoided things that other people got a lot of pleasure from, and you could of too?
Was it embarrassing to have to admit to that fear based limitation?
Do you feel bad for your partner or friends who get tired of having to put up with your reactions?
Has it got to the stage where you realise you could pass this on to your children, so you need to act now for your sake and others?
So I’ll give you some time now to think of the top two or three limitations you used to suffer due to excessive fear. What are the limitations you would like to be free from?
What Benefits You Will Gain?
What are the top two or three benefits you will enjoy when you decide to let go of excessive fear?
Will it benefit you more personally or professionally?
Will it improve your relationships?
What specific situations can you imagine now?
What Is Your Overcoming Fear Priority?
You might have a list of fears, because fear can have a tendency to generalise. But confidence can generalise too. So pick the fear that had the most impact on your professional livelihood or personal enjoyment of life. As you focus on that, other areas will also benefit automatically.
Balance Caution and Confidence
How much is the feeling of fear in your priority area - out of 10?
7 or 8? It’s probably above 5.
This number is your benchmark.
You can recall and contrast it to your number after listening to your specific individual overcoming fear hypnosis download.
If you're a 7 fear or discomfort, that means you're a 3 okay with it.
Our goal is not to go from a 7 down to a 0.
Any fear under 5 means you means fear has become the minority.
For things that do have some risk a reasonable level of caution might mean keeping it at a 3 or 4 is reasonable.
For others with small risk or consequences, a 1 or 2 could make sense.
Make Your Priority Area Specific
I often ask people "what do you have a fear of, exactly?" And I still often get an vague answer. For example, people tell me they have a fear of insects. Our subconscious benefits from a more precise use of language. There are many tiny insects that people are barely aware of, and have 0 / 10 fear towards. Other insects, like mosquitos, provoke irritation at 8/10, but not fear - they can automatically squash the mosquito. They might actually like butterflies. So what kind of insects exactly? Just spiders and big ‘creepy crawlies’? (Notice the power of language choice in representing insects there!)
Now think about your general fear area. Are there some types of dogs, airplanes and flights, heights, smaller spaces, needles and nurses, cars and roads or other situations that are you actually okay with?
Acknowledge your strengths, and give yourself credit for the things you can do, and are okay with. What aspects related to your priority fear already contain elements with a fear or discomfort level under 5 out of 10?
The Confident Skeptic
Now if you’re thinking; “this makes sense, but I’ve had a fear like this for years, I hope I can change but I’m a bit skeptical. I’m not sure I even believe that I can change.” Well, if that’s you, that’s fine.
Since the majority of people in the world do not have the excessive part of your fear, I am also skeptical, I am skeptical that your excess fear is an unchangeable ultimate reality.
And if you are really so confident about the strength of your fear, it’s great that you are confident. We can get that confidence to work for you instead of against you.
Sometimes people tell me about fears they have, that they will never have to face. You don’t like Tarantula’s, so what! What fears can you drop simply because you’ll really never get the chance to practise them even if you wanted to?
So what! is actually a pretty good response to have to the excess portion of fears that are possible to encounter in daily life. You’ve still got a 3-4 level of discomfort? So what! Focus on the 6-7 level comfort.
Personally I am fine with spiders, but if I ended up on some weird reality program with Tarantula’s I could probably feel a 3 out of 10 level of uncomfortableness / fear - so what! I’m still 7 out of 10 comfortable! 3 out of 10 uncomfortable is pretty reasonable. I am happy to keep it at 3. I wouldn’t wish it to be less, that might make it less exciting!
Worst Case Scenarios
Once we have an accurate answer about what are we afraid of exactly, we need to know - what is the worst thing that can happen? Someone with a fear reacts to any spider physically and automatically as if it’s one of the very few with deadly poisons - and is a trained assassin committed to losing its own life to take out a human!
Looking at it from your current calm perspective, what is the statistical likelihood of a worst case scenario actually happening? Like a deadly spider bite, a plane crash, falling from a height, meeting a gangster dog or a doctor or nurse who has no idea how do an injection? Is it a 1% possibility, or a 0.1% possibility ?
I am acknowledging that it is okay to have a degree of fear according to the risk, but at the appropriate small level. If you’re saying over 10% you’re probably inflating it to make your conscious mind feel justified. Don’t fall for that trick. Sometimes the mind would rather prove itself right than get the right result.
You can trick yourself into justifying your fear and keeping it. Or making this a time to be really honest and objective, and downgrade the statistical fear as a step on the road to overcoming it. Is that fair enough?
So if a friend of yours was giving your worst case scenario a statistical likelihood, what percentage possibility would they give it? Can you decide to adopt their lower percentage for yourself also now? You’ll get a chance to feel this subconsciously soon.
How much of this fear is rational and reasonable? You are allowed a reasonable caution. How much of it though do you know consciously is too much? Before I help people overcome old fears, they’ll often say one thing to me, "I shouldn’t be afraid, I know it’s silly of me."
This means people have an intellectual understanding, which of course isn’t enough to overcome the fear in itself. Because there is something real, that you do actually feel in the body, regardless of what the conscious mind thinks. Appropriate, reasonable fear is helpful.
In fact, in one important way, you don’t have enough fear. So there is one thing I invite you to be afraid of - living with excess fear. Use fear for you, as a motivator. So it’s okay to have a fear of missing out on opportunities to live a full life, because;
trying to stay totally safe can be one of the greatest dangers in life.
Enough is Enough
Are there times you have reacted again and again to a fear you know does not make sense, but you do it anyway? To the point where you find your automatic reaction embarrassing or annoying? Can you think of times you felt embarrassed or annoyed by the fear you had then? Part of the decision to be free of the excess fear can also be a strong sense or voice inside that says enough is enough. Enough is enough. Isn’t that right?
Asking The Right Questions
The questions we ask ourselves (like the goals we set ourselves) have a powerful subconscious influence. Had you been asking;
"Why am I afraid", or
"Why can’t I stop being afraid?"
These questions are part of the problem, not part of the solution. If you ask an unhelpful question, your mind can go and find a bunch of unhelpful reasons to justify why you can’t.
Instead you can ask,
"What can I do to bring more calm, clarity and ease into these situations?"
This new rephrased question is one of many subtle yet powerful subconscious shifts we can take in approaching the issue, which we will take it to another level in the next hypnosis part of the program.
So now you’re ready to listen to the individual overcoming fear hypnosis recordings. So you can notice the benefits of your benchmarked fear level decreasing, and your comfort level increasing. So you can go beyond the limitations of counter-productive unnecessary excess fear, and enjoy all the opportunities to fully enjoy life.
The individual overcoming fear hypnosis recordings include; 1) Fears & Phobias 2) Fear of Confined Spaces 3) Fear of Dogs 4) Fear of Driving 5) Fear of Flying 6) Fear of Heights 7) Fear of Insects 8) Fear of Needles.
For now, you can feel good knowing that you have realised that excess fear is a product of unhelpful subconscious tendencies. So the solution is getting your powerful subconscious mind, that had been working against you, to work for you now.